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A childhood memory recently came to my mind. As a kid, I used to be scared of jumping into the big swimming pool. Even at the shallow end. Granted, I was small, but I could easily stand in the shallow side. What’s more, even the pool tiles were clearly visible from the top! Yet the idea of leaping in was something I refused to embrace for the longest time.
My friends would coerce me, plunging repeatedly into the water for my benefit, apparently assuming that what was holding me back was the absence of daily live demonstrations on ‘how to jump’. But the most I dared to do was tip-toe to the very edge, stare at the water blankly and swat away the mosquitoes, until I shivered from the cold and gingerly climbed back into the pool using the built-in stairs. It’s a wonder how much I could overthink even at that age.
And then one summer evening, I simply jumped. Taken aback, I did it again. And then some. I still remember being incredulous that I’d been so wary of this absurdly simple action. With time, I found myself jumping from the high diving board at the deep end of the pool.
Saying I enjoyed it would be a grave understatement. It commenced with me impatiently filling the lungs with air and running the length of the board for no other reason but to amp up the excitement. Then springing off it and having the rejuvenating, chlorine-scented wind wash over my face. Finally, plummeting into the welcoming, dark-blue water, touching the tiles with the toes for a weird sense of satisfaction, pushing upwards and bobbing up again, ready for another go. I was so delighted by it that I spent most of my swimming time simply jumping into the pool for pleasure.
All this is not to say that I went on to become a swimming athlete. Far from it. I can swim in freestyle, gracefulness drifting away from me with every uncoordinated stroke of the limbs, but that’s about it. This is about the incident itself, which on it’s own is trivial, but I think a valuable lesson can be filtered out of it. It made me realize how I’d held myself back from a thoroughly enjoyable experience because of irrational fear. Now an adult, I wonder how often I still do this, immersing in self-doubt and denying myself the opportunity to try something new.
Sometimes, it’s worth swallowing the fear and diving into the unknown. If only to find an answer to pop those bubbles of ‘what-ifs’ floating inside the head aimlessly and taking up space. It is scary, but as William Faulkner put it, “You cannot swim for new horizons until you have courage to lose sight of the shore”. I can take all the precautions I want; wear a cap to cover the head, and goggles to see clearly, but I’ll never know what it’s really like until I finally take that trust-fall into the vast expanse of possibilities.
If I happen to stay underwater for long, facing pressure from every direction in the depths of uncertainty, I can take it as an opportunity to learn to hold the breath, and likewise, faith in myself. And if I hit rock bottom, that could just give me the required thrust to propel upwards through the cold, dark layers until I reach the sunlit surface.
Isn’t being willing to jump in a fair ask, if we expect to get something out of the blue? Perhaps the best thing to come from this exercise, whether a good experience or not, would be building the muscle of self-confidence, which encourages one to experiment over and over.
Here’s hoping we muster the courage to do what we know we should, even if it terrifies us. It doesn’t have to happen overnight; I like to imagine courage as seeping into our soul and leaking into the heart, one drop at a time. And the next time we’re feeling blue, it might help to remember that we are all in the same boat, individually facing our share of fears and insecurities, while helping each other sail through the sea of life.